When a person, in my situation, a male person, has been caught or is suspected to be with another of his multiple women, which, mind you - we all have knowledge of
the others….how does anyone trust or believe anything he says after that point? Or is truth or trust just out the window? Is it just a thing now? Just an act? Or has everyone involved accepted it all for what it is and accept that dudes got more than one women. Is this now an acceptable thing these days? Some studies say, it’s impossible to change that kind of man. That once the breach of commitment has been done, it's easier every time there after. The emotional or heartfelt commitment is gone. While other studies say, a man who truly chooses
to change simply can because he wants to and has discipline to, and truly loves only one women. Yet the man I knew, in all consciousness admitted to me that I wouldn't be
his last. Quote “I will find someone else" or “there will be someone else".
Statements like that are filled with intention. With no intention to stay with one
women for sure. That's not love for anyone...but himself.
How does he do it? Well, from my experience, he just gets better
at keeping it hidden from those he feels the need to hide it from. Wait for someone
to leave town, go away with the guys for a weekend, spend the night at the shack,
or pretend to go to work, head for the hotel down the street. Much of that hotels
been torn down. But the tower is still there. What floor was that room.?
Did someone, (does she know you call her somone?) ever find our
hair in her hairbrush, or our long brown or blonde hair in the room? Or did he clean
that well? Could she smell the scent of our lotions or perfumes or body sprays in
that room? On the mattress? That was my fabric
softener. Made me wonder if she compared the toilet paper roll to before and after
she left. Or towels hanging in the bathroom… or were they washed like the sheets?
Not due to allergies. Carpet shampooed? Look at that with a black light! House cleaned
to remove the smell of the women and sex. Not because a clean house is a thing,
it is to cover up what was.
Dude just got smarter…kinda. But not really. A women knows what
she knows. And she never asks a question she doesn’t already know or have the answer
to. She may not be tracking your mileage, or your pay stub, following you Or me
or the others, or watching the change in your demeanor or attitude or behavior and
actions…as closely anymore. See, it’s predictable now. NEXT. Predictable like the
season.
My question is why would she stick around or wait or hope for
change. The only thing changing are the sheets and the woman. NEXT. Perhaps the perfume too. He hasn’t
changed one bit, getting caught just means he steps up the game. Truth, be told,
the women help him too. I didn’t tho. I knew and know you knew and know when I’ve been in your space. I wasn’t and am not
hiding it. He was/is.
A saint of a women can forgive and pray for honest change. It
takes a saint of a man to actually do that. I prayed for years. I stopped. I knew
then and now, he will never change. Except who is next.